A Life Worth Binge Watching 

S3 E7 Broken Picker

Dating in these Modern times can be compared to trying to nail Jell-O to a tree. It’s quite frustrating and nearly impossible to succeed. Add to the equation being in your 50’s, and you might as well not even make the Jell-o because there are no trees to nail it to! 

With the addition of online dating and dating apps, good old fashioned dating has gone by the wayside. No longer do people actually get to know each other or try to impress. People are given too many choices these days and the next option is just a swipe away. This puts a whole new definition to the grass is greener on the other side. Our society has adopted the mindset of quantity over quality. Sure this person is great, but maybe, just maybe if I keep swiping, someone will be even better. This has to change. My mom tells me my picker is broken but I think it’s society that is broken. I have a lot of female and male single friends who are incredible people, yet they cannot seem to meet anyone that they connect with long-term. I would say that both females and males are equally at fault these days. I think we have become too liberal as a society when it comes to relationships and dating. We are far too accepting of the casual “no strings attached” situations. 

I think that I am pretty easy-going, professional, successful and overall a good catch. I don’t do drugs, I have all my teeth and I enjoy my life! You would think it would be easy to find someone with similar traits! This is just not the case! As you may have read in one of my previous columns, I have definitely dipped my foot in the pool of the online/dating app world and I told you about some of my less than fortunate experiences.  Don’t get me wrong, I have met a couple of nice people but most of the people I have met either turned out to be fake, married, looking for a hookup, or just not who they portrayed.  It’s really quite disappointing. 

It’s not just the online dating world that is a disappointment, it’s just the dating world in general, especially for people my age!  It’s hard to find places to go in this area for the 40-50 year old crowd. Most bars these days are full of younger kids and honestly the bars are just not where I want to meet someone anyway!  I know I am not the only one with this dilemma!

What happened to the days where boy meets girl, boy relentlessly pursues girl, then girl treats boy with respect and admiration?  Nobody feels like an option and they spend time learning more about each other instead of trying to meet multiple people.  Maybe I have watched too many Hallmark movies but surely romance isn’t completely dead? At this age I am not too naïve to realize that my prince may not be coming on his white horse but I can hope for a cowboy on a bull, right??



Melodye Lewis is a Friday columnist for Flagler News Weekly, inspiring women everywhere to follow their dreams of adventure.

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